I am much less selfish. Image: Thinkstock.
Becoming a mother has truly taught me the meaning of selflessness, as well as how to practice it every single day.
There used to be weekends where I would rise and have no plans for the day other than to do whatever the heck I wanted. I relied on no one and no one relied on me.
Yes, there are aspects of those days that I miss (especially the sleeping in), but for me, being a mom has made me a better person and my life much more purposeful.
Would I love a do-over of a weekend sans kids? Sure!
But as far as my character goes, nothing can compare to the way being a mom has humbled me.
How, you ask? I can think of at least five ways:
1. I am much less selfish.
I’ve never thought of myself as a very selfish person, but becoming a mother has truly taught me the meaning of selflessness, as well as how to practice it every single day.
On the other hand, it has also opened my eyes to the fact that sometimes I do need to be a wee bit selfish and put myself first — or else I will be the mean mommy whom no one wants around.
2. I am more organized.
You can argue that being organized isn’t a character trait, but I will battle you until the end! Being organized opens so many doors and enables you to accomplish things that you never, ever would be able to otherwise.
Even though I chase around a little kiddo during the day, my organization skills still allow me to be a business owner, make extra income for our family as a business owner, actually pay attention to my husband, and take care of myself when I need to.
3. I am a multitasking queen.
This is another life skill taught to me by motherhood, one which I have embraced with open arms.
If I could not multitask, I probably would never see my friends (they make me a better person, too), catch up on the latest episode of Orange is the New Black, or have sex — all of which help keep me grounded.
4. I focus much more on those “little” moments.
I laugh so much more with my husband now than I ever did before because we spend so much downtime just enjoying our little family and each precious moment for what it is.
Yes, we’re still busy and running around like wild most of the time, but the moments when we aren’t trying to capture the perfect photo or have a forced family outing are so much more appreciated.
5. My appreciation for alone time has vastly increased.
Before having kids, I never appreciated the act of doing nothing. I took it for granted — and then it came back to bite me in the ass.
I used to sit in bed at night for hours with a great book and a great little treat, snacking away and losing myself in the characters' experiences. I enjoyed it then, but can't say I ever appreciated it the way I do now.
Just this past weekend, I did just that — for a whole 15 minutes.
When it was time to close my book and tuck my son into bed, I felt like a new person.