Role play can be awkward. This is just a fact. You’re usually taking on a character radically at odds with who you are in real life, and chances are you’re not an Oscar-worthy actor.
Finding doable role play scenes and character ideas might be the most challenging hurdle of all. When you have no idea what you’re doing, how do you know who you should try to be? You don’t own $5,000 worth of leather, after all.
Here are nine easy and fun role play ideas for all you beginners curious about exploring different fetishes. (And you don’t have to buy anything!) Happy trails.
1. Housewife and handyman/Househusband and handywoman.
Why we love it: The housewife-handyman scenario has always been a crowd favorite (you can also be a househusband and handywoman, obviously). There is something so sexy about screwing the tasty man or woman who’s come to clean your pipes (hehe).
And since your apartment or house is already the perfect backdrop, you don’t need much to pull it off.
The gear: For the housewife, you’ll need a robe and some cute pajamas. For your handyman/woman you just need a regular belt to stick things in (like a vibrator or a makeshift crop). You don’t need a real tool belt, since no one's staying clothed for very long (unless doing it in a tool belt is a turn-on for you, in which case…)
2. College professor and student.
Why we love it: Many of us fantasize about a teacher we wanted to hook up with (I know I have). Role play is about a power exchange and nothing says power like a naughty professor.
The whole student/teacher paradigm is very hot, but becomes problematic when you’re thinking in terms of age-appropriate consent. Falling prey to that pitfall is NOT sexy. Avoid the creepy feelings by being a college student and professor instead. You still get to go to “office hours” (your partner at the kitchen table) and beg for a better grade you’ll “do anything to get.”
The gear: College students wear normal clothes (if PINK sweats are considered normal), so just put on the most age-inappropriate thing you own and call it a day. If you’re the professor, wear glasses. But all you really need is a few books in front of you and BAM! Collegiate.
3. Nanny and hot single dad/mom.
Why we love it: The hot single parent hooking up with the nanny has appeal for two main reasons. One, you’re having sex with someone you work for/works for you and therefore has control of your livelihood. And two, the single parent is broken-hearted and looking for love — just waiting for the wonderful nanny to come in and swoop them up. It’s very Jude Law, only without all the cheating on Sienna.
The gear: The nanny and parent fantasy is easy because you don’t need costumes. You just have to create a scene and go for it.
4. Uptight boss and difficult employee.
Why we love it: Haven’t you ever had a boss you really just wanted to bang, even though he or she was a total asshole? Oh, yes. A power exchange really does get the juices flowing. When someone is pissing you off, those feelings of rage are very akin to feelings of passion. Angry sex is HOT.
The gear: You just need a table. Imagine it’s a desk. If you want to dress up in business casual, go for it. If you’d rather set the scene at a startup, go for a t-shirt. The best accessory you can have in this scene is a good “angry boss” voice. (Is it hot in here or is it just me?)
5. Good cop and bad cop.
Why we love it: This scene is about equity. You’re partners on the force, each other’s shields and greatest allies. Sometimes you have to rough up a certain criminal; you each have your role. After a particularly intense interrogation, you finally give way to your lust…
Sorry, got ahead of myself. But you get where I’m going with this.
The gear: If someone has a police badge or handcuffs from Halloween costumes past, that’s ideal. If not, you can always make believe. Instead of being one of the Boys in Blue, go the Stabler and Benson route: slacks and button-ups. Booya.
6. Doctor and nurse.
Why we love it: People get hard over sterilized hands and medical scrubs. It’s a thing. Being a medical professional is hard and sometimes you have to let off some steam with a coworker, probably.
It’s not a coincidence that naughty nurse and doctor costumes are so popular on Halloween. They’re seductive.
The gear: Put on any form of white clothing you have and pretend it’s scrubs or a lab coat. Use a metal kitchen spoon to “test your partner’s reflexes” and grab a thermometer to “check his or her temperature.”
I know he’s also a medical professional and not a patient, but it’s a game so just go with it.
7. Poison Ivy and Batman.
Why we love it: We all want to be superheroes because they're larger than life. What’s not to love about super strength and walking through walls?
Pretending to be a superhero is really fun — and having supercharged, superhero sex is as good as it gets. This dynamic works with any mix-up of your favorite superheroes and villains. I personally love being Wonder Woman.
The gear: Throw on some tights, put on your sleep masks, and there you go. It might feel a little more Captain Underpants and a little less Batman, but you’ll make it work. Who says role play has to be super hard?
8. Librarian and active reader.
Why we love it: If you're going to claim you've never thought about having sex with a hot librarian, I'm going to call bullshit.
This fantasy is sexy because books and intelligence are not traditionally thought of as sexually attractive. Lord knows, we all love some nerdy taboos. This one's for the bookworms.
The gear: For the sexy librarian, throw on a sweater and possibly a short skirt if you’re feeling extra frisky. Toss your hair into a messy bun, pop a pencil in it, and open a volume of Charles Dickens. The active reader (or patron) can wear whatever is sexiest to that person. There you have it: hot library scene.
9. College athlete and coach.
Why we love it: College coaches have insane sex appeal. They’re so virile and energetic in spite of being middle-aged. It’s kind of strange how locker rooms are so disgusting, and yet for some reason, so many people want to screw in them. Who are we to judge?
The gear: You can pull this entire scene off in your gym clothes. You can step things up a notch if you do it right after a workout and cash in on the free endorphins.