BIO

Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. Her work has been featured many places, including Marie Claire, SELF, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, The Manifest-Station, and Cosmonauts Avenue. In addition to her Ask Erin advice column and her role as Managing Editor for Ravishly, her latest project is a forthcoming memoir that follows her recovery from a 15-year struggle with heroin addiction, as she learned to let go of shame, face the truth, and love and forgive herself. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210.

Erin Khar's Articles

I'm immediately remorseful of the action I've committed whether I was under the influence or not. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: Did I Commit Marital Rape?

I've been beating myself over the past few days, and my wife — who I love, respect, and can't live without — can’t look at me or speak to me.
Erin Khar   |   03.20.19 12:01am   |   SHARE
I’m a heterosexual cis woman and had been trying to figure out how I felt about him for a while because it didn’t feel entirely platonic. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: How Do I Thoughtfully Navigate My Feelings For A Trans Man?

A trans masc friend with whom I’ve grown very close asked me whether I might be interested in dating. I've been trying to figure out how I feel about him.
Erin Khar   |   03.13.19 12:01am   |   SHARE
What can I do for us to have a healthy, better, successful life and future marriage? (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: Will I Lose My Fiance To Rehab?

My fiancé has been in inpatient rehab for close to a week. What can I do for us to have a healthy, better, successful life and future marriage?
Erin Khar   |   03.6.19 12:01am   |   SHARE
I’ve been trying to overcome postpartum depression for eight months, but there is no healing at all. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: I Need Help With Postpartum Depression

I’ve been trying to overcome postpartum depression for eight months, but there is no healing at all.
Erin Khar   |   02.27.19 12:01am   |   SHARE
My best friend is my ex. He knows I have strong feelings for him, but I don’t know if he still feels the same for me.

Ask Erin: I'm In Love With My Best Friend (Who Is Also My Ex)

My best friend is my ex. He knows I have strong feelings for him, but I don’t know if he still feels the same for me.
Erin Khar   |   02.20.19 12:01am   |   SHARE
I know 20 is young, but the moment you tell someone you're still a virgin, it's as if you told them you're living with a terminal illness. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: I'm A 20-Year-Old Virgin

I know 20 is young, but the moment you tell someone you're still a virgin, it's as if you told them you're living with a terminal illness.
Erin Khar   |   02.13.19 12:01am   |   SHARE
He's obsessed with her. It's really starting to hurt me, and I don't know whether to say something to him or not. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: The Guy I'm Dating Is Obsessed With Someone Else

He's obsessed with her. It's really starting to hurt me, and I don't know whether to say something to him or not.
Erin Khar   |   02.6.19 12:01am   |   SHARE
Grieving the loss of a baby is a process, and I am unsure if we ever complete that process. But I do think we can get to a place of acceptance. (artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: I Need Help Overcoming The Loss Of A Baby

Grieving the loss of a baby is a process, and I am unsure if we ever complete that process. But I do think we can get to a place of acceptance.
Erin Khar   |   01.30.19 12:01am   |   SHARE
I respect her desire to want it but I don’t, and I have made it clear that I don’t want a threesome with another girl or guy.

Ask Erin: My Girlfriend Wants A Threesome And I Don’t

I respect her desire to want it but I don’t, and I have made it clear that I don’t want a threesome with another girl or guy.
Erin Khar   |   01.23.19 12:01am   |   SHARE
Am I broken? Should I just give up and start wearing shapeless beige garments to symbolize my sexual death? (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: Am I Broken?

Am I broken? Should I just give up and start wearing shapeless beige garments to symbolize my sexual death?
Erin Khar   |   01.16.19 12:01am   |   SHARE