Erin  Khar

Managing Editor

BIO

Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. Her work has been featured many places, including Marie Claire, SELF, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, The Manifest-Station, and Cosmonauts Avenue. In addition to her Ask Erin advice column and her role as Managing Editor for Ravishly, her latest project is a forthcoming memoir that follows her recovery from a 15-year struggle with heroin addiction, as she learned to let go of shame, face the truth, and love and forgive herself. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210.

Erin Khar's Articles

How do I get over my ex who dumped me out of the blue? (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: How Do I Get Over An Ex Who Dumped Me Out Of The Blue?

Then she told me we needed to talk and that she didn’t want this or me anymore. How do I get over my ex who dumped me out of the blue?
Erin Khar   |   07.18.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
I think I'm asexual but my family thinks I'm gay. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: I Think I'm Asexual But My Family Thinks I'm Gay 

A month or two ago I read an article on possible asexuality signs, and I fit most of them. I think I'm asexual but my family thinks I'm gay.
Erin Khar   |   07.11.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
(Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: How Do I Support A Friend I Can't Trust? 

My friend lies and uses any available information to insult people to their faces or smear them to others to drive wedges between people. I can't trust her!
Erin Khar   |   07.5.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
How can I be a supportive of my cheating best friend while not supporting her actions?

Ask Erin: How Can I Help My Cheating Best Friend? 

In short: what's a girl supposed to do? How can I be a supportive of my cheating best friend while not supporting her actions?
Erin Khar   |   06.27.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
After a one-night stand with my co-worker, how do I stay professional?

Ask Erin: How Do I Stay Professional After A One-Night Stand With A Co-Worker?

I had no expectations beyond what happened, a one-night stand with a co-worker. How do I manage having to stay in contact and keep things professional?
Erin Khar   |   06.20.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
Photo by Tiago Bandeira on Unsplash

Ask Erin: Should I Accept My Friend's Apology For Sexually Assaulting Me?

I don't know if I should continue the friendship and accept my friend's apology for sexually assaulting me. I am still getting flashbacks and depression.
Erin Khar   |   06.13.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
Please reach out if you see someone struggling with depression. (Photo by nikko macaspac on Unsplash)

If You See Me Slipping Into Depression, Please Reach Out

Depression lingers like an unwelcome ghost trailing behind me. And most days, I accept that. I acknowledge that. And, I’m okay. What if one day I’m not?
Erin Khar   |   06.11.18 6:59am   |   SHARE
My husband is mad that I don't want to watch porn. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: My Husband Is Mad That I Don’t Want To Watch Porn With Him 

I have been with my husband for years. Porn has never been an issue. One night we watched it and now my husband is mad that I don't want to watch porn.
Erin Khar   |   06.6.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
Kate Spade Wallet (Image credit: Joni Edelman)

Depression Doesn't Care How Much Money You Have

I am here to tell you to stop judging other people’s outsides and making value judgments on their insides. Depression doesn't care but you should!
Erin Khar   |   06.5.18 2:42pm   |   SHARE
(Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: How Should I Act When I Meet My Best Friend’s Awful Boyfriend?

I don't want to make my friend choose between me and her boyfriend. Yet, I think their relationship is deeply unhealthy and I worry about her.
Erin Khar   |   05.30.18 12:01am   |   SHARE