BIO

Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. Her work has been featured many places, including Marie Claire, SELF, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, The Manifest-Station, and Cosmonauts Avenue. In addition to her Ask Erin advice column and her role as Managing Editor for Ravishly, her latest project is a forthcoming memoir that follows her recovery from a 15-year struggle with heroin addiction, as she learned to let go of shame, face the truth, and love and forgive herself. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210.

Erin Khar's Articles

Please reach out if you see someone struggling with depression. (Photo by nikko macaspac on Unsplash)

If You See Me Slipping Into Depression, Please Reach Out

Depression lingers like an unwelcome ghost trailing behind me. And most days, I accept that. I acknowledge that. And, I’m okay. What if one day I’m not?
Erin Khar   |   06.11.18 6:59am   |   SHARE
My husband is mad that I don't want to watch porn. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: My Husband Is Mad That I Don’t Want To Watch Porn With Him 

I have been with my husband for years. Porn has never been an issue. One night we watched it and now my husband is mad that I don't want to watch porn.
Erin Khar   |   06.6.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
Kate Spade Wallet (Image credit: Joni Edelman)

Depression Doesn't Care How Much Money You Have

I am here to tell you to stop judging other people’s outsides and making value judgments on their insides. Depression doesn't care but you should!
Erin Khar   |   06.5.18 2:42pm   |   SHARE
(Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: How Should I Act When I Meet My Best Friend’s Awful Boyfriend?

I don't want to make my friend choose between me and her boyfriend. Yet, I think their relationship is deeply unhealthy and I worry about her.
Erin Khar   |   05.30.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
(Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: How Can I Learn To Trust My Husband? 

I don't trust my husband. He had a years-long emotional affair that I ended up having to squash within this first week of our being married.
Erin Khar   |   05.23.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
 I'm afraid my parents will choose religion over me. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: Will My Parents Choose Religion Over Me?

I just want something in my life to be happy and not dictated by some tyrannical religious presence. I'm afraid my parents will choose religion over me.
Erin Khar   |   05.16.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
The longer we're together, the more I feel like I'm parenting my husband. (illustration: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: I Feel Like I'm Parenting My Husband 

My husband and I got married about three years ago - I adore him. But the longer we're together, the more I feel like I'm parenting my husband.
Erin Khar   |   05.9.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
I know it’s not fair for me to compare two very different people, so how do I stop comparing my new girlfriend to my Ex? (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: How Do I Stop Comparing My New Girlfriend To My Ex? 

I know it’s not fair for me to compare two very different people, so how do I stop comparing my new girlfriend to my Ex? Help!
Erin Khar   |   05.2.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
Am I an emotional cheater? (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: Am I An Emotional Cheater? 

I feel like this is cheating — having feelings for him, so I feel bad. I have thought about ending things with my boyfriend. Am I an emotional cheater?
Erin Khar   |   04.25.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
If you’re struggling with infertility, I see you. I know what the isolation of infertility feels like.

For National Infertility Awareness Week, Let's #FlipTheScript

It’s National Infertility Awareness Week and this year’s theme is #FlipTheScript — the goal being to change the conversation about infertility.
Erin Khar   |   04.23.18 12:01am   |   SHARE