Erin  Khar

Managing Editor


Erin Khar lives, loves, and writes in New York City and sometimes other cities too. Her work has been featured many places, including Marie Claire, SELF, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, The Manifest-Station, and Cosmonauts Avenue. In addition to her Ask Erin advice column and her role as Managing Editor for Ravishly, her latest project is a forthcoming memoir that follows her recovery from a 15-year struggle with heroin addiction, as she learned to let go of shame, face the truth, and love and forgive herself. When she’s not writing, she’s probably watching Beverly Hills, 90210.

Erin Khar's Articles

Am I an emotional cheater? (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: Am I An Emotional Cheater? 

I feel like this is cheating — having feelings for him, so I feel bad. I have thought about ending things with my boyfriend. Am I an emotional cheater?
Erin Khar   |   04.25.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
If you’re struggling with infertility, I see you. I know what the isolation of infertility feels like.

For National Infertility Awareness Week, Let's #FlipTheScript

It’s National Infertility Awareness Week and this year’s theme is #FlipTheScript — the goal being to change the conversation about infertility.
Erin Khar   |   04.23.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
Do I tell my coworker that I saw his junk? (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: Do I Tell My Coworker That I Saw His Junk?

How in the world do I go about letting him know that he was exchanging dirty pics with someone who is not a stranger after all? I saw his junk!
Erin Khar   |   04.18.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
Is sexting cheating? (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: Is Sexting Considered Cheating? 

Is sexting cheating? I've been with my boyfriend a little under a year. He refuses to acknowledge what he did as cheating.
Erin Khar   |   04.11.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
Should I stop giving unsolicited advice? (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: Should I Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice? Please Advise.

I am the "advice columnist" of my friends' group. How much helping is too much helping? Should I stop giving unsolicited advice?
Erin Khar   |   04.4.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
I need to know how to express anger after sexual abuse. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: I Need Help Expressing Anger After Sexual Abuse

I am unable to physically show any signs of anger — I’m too scared, too well-trained not to. I need to know how to express anger after sexual abuse.
Erin Khar   |   03.28.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
I feel like I need to explore my sexuality because I haven't felt sexually attracted to men for a while. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: I'm Dating A Guy, But I Like A Girl. Help!

I’m dating a guy, but I like a girl. I know that this seems very odd and is an awkward situation, but do you have any advice for my dilemma?
Erin Khar   |   03.21.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
The love you have for your husband is not enough in the face of abuse. And make no mistake, you are in an abusive relationship. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: I Can’t Cope With My Emotionally Abusive Husband 

From a 25 point list, "These are the signs you're in an emotionally abusive relationship," he even agreed he was doing like 22 of them.
Erin Khar   |   03.8.18 12:50pm   |   SHARE
You are not overreacting. But, you may have to realign your expectations. (Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez)

Ask Erin: Am I Overreacting To The Way My Partner’s Family Treats Me? 

Her parents, more specifically her mother, seem to have these microaggressions towards our relationship and I don’t know how to handle it. Am I overreacting?
Erin Khar   |   03.7.18 12:01am   |   SHARE
Depression is a disease of inaction, of paralysis. At least, that’s how it manifests for me.

I Have Compassion For Everyone Struggling With Depression Except Me

With other people who are struggling with mental health issues, I am empathetic. But when it comes to my own depression, I am none of those things.
Erin Khar   |   03.6.18 12:01am   |   SHARE