Kristi Pahr

Kristi Pahr

Bio

Kristi is a stay at home mom with two small boys and a very messy house. She and her family raise goats and pigs and she pretends to know something about homesteading. She went to college in the 90s and didn’t learn much, but she met her husband there, so it wasn’t a total waste of time. They were married a short time later and have spent the last 16 years trying to “settle down” and “be normal”. It’s been a huge and glorious mess. Follow her on Facebook and Twitter. Read her blog www.freespiritmama.com.

Kristi Pahr Articles

Holidays Survival Guide. Sangria? Check. (Image Credit: Thinkstock)

An Introvert’s Guide To The Holidays

It seems like everyone is an introvert these days.

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(Image Credit: Thinkstock)

Advanced Maternal Age AKA Holy Crap, I'm Tired

I feel like if I’d started earlier, had my first kid at 28 instead of 34, maybe I’d be a little less tired right now. Maybe I’d be a more fun mom if my knees didn’t sound like small arms fire every time I tried to run with my son. Maybe I’d be a better mom if I was younger. But I don’t think so. My kids? They’re awesome. And I’m the mom they have, so I must be doing something right, old or not.

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 I’m in; I’m out. I’m done.

I Don't Love Target, And Other SAHM Anachronisms

I have a confession to make. Target, meh. I’m just not that into it.

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The comments I get, you would not believe. (Image Credit: Kristi Pahr)

Life As A 39-Year-Old With Fully Gray Hair

I found my first gray hair when I was 12 years old. Twelve. I had gray hair before I had a period.

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Oh Fraggle Rock, what a wondrous nostalgia you evoke. (Image Credit: Flickr/Cliff)

My Kids Don't Care About Fraggle Rock Or Its Anniversary & I'm A Little Sad About That

I’m not a TV person. I used to be, but not so much anymore.

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Teach your kids to celebrate differences.

White Parents: Teaching Our Kids To Be Colorblind Isn't The Answer

“Is she Black or white?” I asked another mom who was describing a little girl in her son’s class that she thought my family might know.

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Don’t be an asshole. Unless you’re surrounded by assholes, then just do your best.

Don't Be An A**hole

Don’t be an asshole is my barometer. It’s my go-to for figuring out how to respond to any given situation, big or small, personal, local, or global.

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Taking the changes, great and small.

Small New Year's Resolutions, Big Results

2016 sucked. If we can’t agree on anything else, I think we can all agree on at least that much.

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 I hit a wall, and begged for an epidural. (Image: Thinkstock)

My VBAC Was Supposed To Be Magic; Nope, I Hated It

When I got pregnant for the third time, I was determined to have an unmedicated VBAC. I had big plans. This VBAC was going to be my birth experience salvation. It was going to be empowering and amazing and heal all my hangups. I was going to be a mama goddess and everything was going to be perfect. I was wrong.

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Too many victims, too much complicity.

True Stories Of Sexual Assault

These women are from all over the world. They are from different socioeconomic brackets. Their assaults took place during different times over the last 35 years. The victims are completely different, but the stories are all so similar. Victims of assault, rape, harassment, coming forward, being brave and telling the truth, and being stigmatized, ostracized, blamed, ignored, ridiculed. People they love, people they trust, people whose job it is to protect them, blaming them for their assault. It’s common. Almost expected. That women are assaulted, harassed by men, is a given in our culture. That women are blamed is standard procedure. Is it really any wonder that the majority of sexual assaults go unreported? Is it really shocking that a woman would want to save herself additional trauma?

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