Melissa Lovitz

Melissa Lovitz

Bio

Melissa Lovitz recently graduated from the University of Connecticut where she earned a B.A. in Human Development and Family Studies. She is currently a graduate student at Brown University studying Urban Education Policy with a focus on family and community engagement in urban communities. She loves country music, gymnastics, coffee, “Grey’s Anatomy,” popcorn and great conversations. You can read more of Melissa’s work at I’m Probably Overthinking This or follow her on Twitter @MelisLov.

Melissa Lovitz Articles

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What's The Difference Between Aesthetic And Sexual Attraction?

Sexual attraction is not the only type of physical attraction, AND aesthetic attraction is not the same as sexual attraction!

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Interviewing for jobs is a two-way street. Image: Thinkstock.

4 Tips For Your Job Search, From A Millennial To Millennials (And Everyone Else, Too!)

I could link to several sites that list countless questions you should ask in a job interview, but I fear that would be a waste of your time, and condescending to your Google search talents. Instead, I’ll offer this: Make sure you have two or three quality questions prepped to ask at your job interview.

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Let's demystify asexuality.

The Top 4 Questions I’m Asked When I Say I’m Asexual

3. Do you masturbate? First, what each person does with or to their body is nobody else’s business. Remember, asexuality is about sexual attraction not necessarily sexual desire or arousal. Simply put, most asexual people can experience sexual arousal; some asexuals masturbate and some do not.

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Choosing mindfulness.

Today, Instead Of Dieting, I’m Choosing Mindfulness

I’m breaking up with meticulously measuring meals, miles, minutes, etc. I’m worn-out by the fatigue that follows the cycles of fixation. These cycles disguise themselves as control and help me define myself within parameters that feel palpable – things I can wrap my head around.

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Time runs life for everyone, but it's a different struggle with OCD.

When Every Day Is Controlled By Time

I have OCD and I focus incessantly on time as a proxy for order an

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One of the best-kept secrets about adulting is that, most of the time, nobody knows what they’re doing.

What They Don't Tell You About Your "Roaring Twenties"

Oh, you didn’t know? Perhaps it’s because one of the best-kept secrets about adulting is that, most of the time, nobody knows what they’re doing.

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Sometimes, I feel like I don’t measure up in the feminist or queer communities.

Am I A Bad Queer? Am I A Bad Feminist? 

I’ve been struggling to understand if I’m a “bad queer” or a “bad feminist” and sometimes, I think I am!

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Bullet journaling all about what works for you. It shouldn’t feel burdensome.

Bullet Journaling For Basic People With Lots Of Thoughts

The trick to successful bullet journaling, in my mind, is to avoid getting caught up in the fanciness of it! Of course, you can make your bullet journal as complex or minimalist as you want, but I’d recommend starting slow. Allow your bullet journaling practice to morph to your needs.

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Rather than eating until I felt anxious that I was eating too much or wasting too much time, I ate when I was hungry and stopped when I was full. Image: Thinkstock.

3 Things That Changed When I Started Thinking Of Food As Fuel

Something changed for me when I heard my friend say, “I run so I can eat.” I run so I can cope, so I can feel invincible, so I can think. And so, in a surprising change of events, I challenged them politely and asked, “What would change if, instead, you ate so you can run?”

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