As someone who went through six years of infertility and who’s now in therapy for it, please stop telling people going through infertility to just relax.
If you’re struggling with infertility, I see you. I know what the isolation of infertility feels like.
It’s National Infertility Awareness Week and this year’s theme is #FlipTheScript — the goal being to change the conversation about infertility.
In Navigating IVF, IVF Steph takes us on her journey through the wilds of fertility treatment.
There was a sisterhood of women dealing with infertility and reaching out to each other for support, and I found myself thrust into it at a time when I needed that sisterhood the most.
When I was first diagnosed with Stage IV endometriosis and told that my fertility had become a now or never proposition, I didn’t know anyone else who had faced anything similar. All of my friends were at the point of marrying and having babies themselves. Several had gotten pregnant without even meaning to. Meanwhile, I was 26 and single, being told that it might never happen for me at all. The whole thing was crushing, perhaps even more so because I didn’t feel like there was anyone I could talk to about it. My friends couldn’t relate, and even those who were most empathetic and anxious to help were often at a loss for what to say.
Our first IUI happened, and I can describe it as “OH ALL THE SWEARING THIS HURTS SO MUCH WHY IS THIS TERRIBLE THING HAPPENING.” It turns out that I have a scarred cervix, which requires that it be manually opened in order to put in the catheter.
The moment I learned I couldn't have a baby, conception went from being my assumption to being my purpose.