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Jennifer Herbstritt (sister) and Jeremy Herbstritt on their aunt's front porch. (Courtesy of the Herbstritt family)

What The Mother Of A School Shooting Victim Taught Me About Parenthood

While planning to have a child of my own, I often asked myself: What would it feel like to parent a child who later died unexpectedly in a school shooting?

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Lessons On Losing My Family And Finding My Home

I did it. I finally did it. And it only took my whole family dying to get me here.

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Letters To The Dead: Shadow Writing For Grief & Release

Some grief is inert. Some grief is an engine. Sometimes actively participating in grief, I’ve learned, is one small way we can learn to escape its riptide.

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You can learn to live with the pain, you can move on as I have after over a decade of self-reflection and hard work, but you never, ever get over it.

Why I’ll Never, Ever Get Over My Girlfriend’s Murder

You can learn to live with the pain, you can move on as I have after over a decade of self-reflection and hard work, but you never, ever get over it.

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Interior Designs: How Home Shapes Us

I wasn’t expecting to have a visceral response to observing someone I hardly knew do home renovations.

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My Mother Is Alive And I Mourn Her Every Day

The truth is, I have no idea where she is. I don’t even know if my mother is alive. I haven’t spoken to my mother for eight years.

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I had retrieved at least one constant in my mother’s life: her love of puzzles and word games.

Finding My Unsolvable Mother In Her Left-Behind Crossword Puzzles​

Looking at her left-behind crossword puzzles, I had retrieved at least one constant in my mother’s life: her love of puzzles and word games.

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Getting Through My First Year Without A Dad

Last April, my dad died two days before his 58 birthday after struggling with Huntington's Disease for over a decade. This is my first year without a dad.

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