microaggression

12 Of The Sh*ttiest Things Men Have Said To Me

I don’t know if men realize the comments they make on a daily basis can be quite hurtful.

Recently I’d gotten into an argument with a male friend. It got me thinking about the shittiest things men have said to me…

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3 Ways To Avoid Tokenizing People (Because I'm Sick Of It)

"We’re painfully aware of the fact that we’re “the only one” in the room, or one of very few. Don’t make it worse." Image: Author

It’s like being a deer in the headlights. You’re in imminent danger. You know it. But you can’t move. You can’t speak. No reaction whatsoever. You just stand or sit there, frozen in time, waiting for the crash.

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You Aren't Always Entitled To Be Heard, Actually

When you’re used to being listened to, you start to think it’s because you’ve done something to deserve it. Image: Thinkstock.

I barely had a chance to say “What’s taking him so long?” before he stepped up to the counter to ask me what he could help me with. Me. Not my friend who had been standing there for a minimum of twenty minutes waiting for assistance, but ME, the white girl.

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It's The Casual Homophobia That Hurts My Family Most

When subtle homophobia meets the three of us out in public, it looks back and forth from face to face and eventually just asks, “So, whose kid?” Image: Thinkstock.

Despite our relative insulation from homophobia, my wife and I are not unaware of the situation. There are plenty of people in this country who don’t believe that we have the right to exist, to be married, or to raise a child together.

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