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I know these kids need both parents in their lives to learn to grow to be successful human adults, some days, I’d like to be remembered as the fun parent.

Some Days, I'd Like To Be Remembered As The Fun Parent — But I'm Not

I know these kids need both parents in their lives to learn to grow to be successful human adults, but some days, I’d like to be remembered as the fun parent.

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Just kidding, you're asleep. That was a dream.

It's Valentine's Day; Let There Be Coffee And Sleep And Sexless Back Rubs

You wake up to birds chirping, just kidding, you don’t, because it’s February and it’s freezing, and also you have a kid. 

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I have spent much of my adult life feeling like I must be a terrible parent because I missed an award ceremony or didn’t make a Halloween costume.

You Are Definitely Too Hard On Yourself

Berating yourself for what you perceive as less than exemplary parenting is not only not making you a better parent, it’s probably limiting you.

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9 Ways Teens Are Better Than Toddlers

When was the last time your three-year-old was like, “Oh you’re not feeling well? You should definitely get some rest. I’ll just take care of myself. No sweat.”

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Why Raising A Daughter Scares The Sh*t Out Of Me

We can keep the diet talk, the self-criticism, the weight loss rhetoric, and the calorie-counting out of the house, but we can’t keep it out of everywhere else. So, raising a daughter scares the shit out of me.

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Things I anticipate most when my kids finally go the eff to sleep!

10 Things I Look Forward To When My Kids (Finally) Go The Eff To Sleep

These are the things I anticipate most when my kids finally go the eff to sleep. I deserve it after a day of being in what feels like survival mode.

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Queer Parents Aren’t Allowed To Have Mixed Feelings About Parenthood

For queer parents like me, meanwhile — although I know that my whiteness and my class affords me a degree of protection from scrutiny and interference — the threat of being deemed an illegitimate parent also serves to silence any discussion of mixed feelings.

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Why I Will Never Tell My Son To “Man Up”

When our boy was a toddler his emotional outbursts only received quick glances. Now that my five-year-old has officially entered boyhood, his crying looks awkward on him; he gets full-on stares.

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