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Take The Cake: 35 Things I've Learned In 35 Years

One of my yearly rituals is making a list of things I’ve learned in the past year. So, I thought I would make public the list of things I’ve learned Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   05.25.17   |   SHARE
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"All I want is a hamburger with pastrami on it and to write a story about dick." (Image Credit: Mighty Moose Art, @mightymooseart)

Take The Cake: Diary For May 10 - Pastrami, Dick, Feelings

The point is: no matter how wonderfully delicious a man (or anyone) is, once you’ve seen him sneeze, fall, eat peanut butter or chew loudly, if there Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   05.18.17   |   SHARE
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Confidence can be faked, but healing takes time, energy, and work. But it's worth it. (Image Credit: Instagram/virgietovar)

Take The Cake: The Confidence-Industrial Complex

Like many women and girls, I was taught that confidence is a commodity that we can use to attain romantic and sexual attention from men. We spend a Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   05.11.17   |   SHARE
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Take The Cake: #NotYourLena OR How All Fat Women Are Not The Same Person

So, recently I started dipping my toe back into the poisonous dump site that is straight dating. Deep breath. The rumors are true: Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   05.4.17   |   SHARE
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Take The Cake: 'I Love Dick'

Last week I was sitting anywhere between nineteen and thirty-seven feet from Kevin Bacon. There was a special San Francisco Film Festival screening Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   04.27.17   |   SHARE
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Take The Cake: Actually, #DONTDropThePlus

The first time I heard about the #DropThePlus campaign I was of two minds. On Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   04.6.17   |   SHARE
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Take The Cake: More Fat Face Representation Please

The other day I was having coffee and ice cream with my friend. We were talking about who we follow online. She is plus size and has asymmetrical Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   03.30.17   |   SHARE
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There's a difference between a person genuinely admiring your gifts, and a person who sees you as a way to feel superior.

Take The Cake: Don't Just Blindly Say 'You Inspire Me'

Two weeks ago, I was in West Lafayette, Indiana. I flew into Chicago at around midnight, and I was picked up by new friend and hostess, Mel. Even Read...
Virgie Tovar    |   03.16.17   |   SHARE
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